Monday, January 30, 2017

The Enemy Within

Do you ask yourself, what keeps me from meeting my goals? Why do others achieve theirs successfully?

Most of us have goals, big and small, but the most realistic goals in the world won’t materialize if you engage in self-defeating behaviors.

So, what is self-sabotage?
“Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn't happen.” ~ Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby

In today’s business environment we’re “on” all the time. All eyes are on us to achieve or fail. It’s important that we don’t give in to negative feelings and risk spiraling out of control.

If you’re self-sabotaging you’re not alone. Studies suggest that 85 percent of people engage in some form of self-sabotage.  

Below are two of the most common behaviors:

“If only…”

We all have some regrets, whether they're about something we did (if only I hadn't dropped out of college), or something we didn't do (if only I’d ask for that raise). To dwell on these “if only” fantasies will only keep you idling in neutral.

The ‘worry-wart’

You fret over things that really shouldn't matter. You fear that if you fail others will think less of you. You doubt your abilities even though “you’re very capable”. Listen, we all have insecurities; we just have to learn to manage them effectively.

Here are a few things that experts suggest we practice in order to minimize the self-deprecating inner talk:

Smile more
Smile. Right now J

Emit good energy
The energy you send out into the world comes back.

Do for others
If you’re wallowing in your own misery why not pull aside and regroup? Focusing on others is a great way to gain perspective.

See the bright side
Remember that the universe is in balance. Things aren’t always as bad as they seem.

Get grounded and stay grounded
Positive thinking without positive actions gets you nowhere. Be prepared to do the work.

Especially at yourself!

Anytime you feel like your plan has gone off course, fight against shutting down. If you get a bad review, don’t throw in the towel. Before you give up on your strategy, before you decide to give up on your dream, sit down and plan a new approach.

Happy 2017!

Monday, October 31, 2016

And the Amazon gift card winner is...

I want to say thank you to everyone who participated in the Fall Blog Hop and to those who LIKEd my Facebook page.

At this time I'd like to congratulate Teresa Coreleone winner of the $10 Amazon gift card! Teresa, please send me your email address at maria AT mywritingden dot NET and I will email you a gift card.

As a indie writer I depend on word of mouth and self-promotion, so I'd love to have a few more followers on either Twitter, Facebook or Goodreads. So, come on by friends and get to know me!

Thank you,

Monday, October 17, 2016

Blog Hop Baby!

Fall Carnival - Blog Hoppers Delight!
The Desert Muses are giving away an $80 Amazon gift card to one lucky hopper.

When this author group met a few weeks back the muses decided to organize a joint giveaway for the month of October.
You’ll be happy to learn that I’m also conducting my own giveaway; it’ll consist of a $10 Amazon gift card. How do you enter to win it? It’s simple: become a fan on Facebook and leave a comment with your link or email address. Each person who Likes me will earn one entry. Both winners (from my site and the Desert Muses blog) will be announced on October 29th so stay tuned.
Now, please drop by my friend’s site Camelia Miron Skiba and check out her own giveaway.
Thanks for stopping by!